Parasitic
relationships are when one organism benefits from another organism, which
receives nothing in return. Student relationships can consist of one student
doing all of the work and another student taking the credit for that work,
stealing the answers for themselves. Sounds familiar, huh? Normally, you are
either the one that is doing the work, or you are the one that is copying the
work. If you are the one that copies, you generally know that it is you, and that’s
ok—as long as you finish the work before the teacher sees. Cool. Have you ever
kept up a conversation with this person that you are taking advantage of
without any alternate intentions? Not even a “hey, how are you?” No? Oh, and
you’re upset that they don’t feel like giving up his/her work? How dare they?
It’s
probably very obvious that I am concerned about the equality of the
hard-working students and the…not-so-hard-working students. How is it fair that
some people do all the work without ever getting credit or maybe even a sincere
“thank you” for helping?
A new friend isn’t even brought up in the deal. All that these people receive
are the title of being the “smart person.” This isn’t really a blessing, more
of a curse. Once a person shows how “smart” he/she is, that person is forever
branded as the one to go to because they actually did the work. So, doing all
of one’s work is not beneficial to one’s self if another person is going to be
a leech anyways. It’s not fair!
Why
do I do all of my work? Is it just because I’m smart? Is it because I have no
life? False. I have two jobs (and I work hard at both), I have friends, I am involved
in so many extracurricular activities that I can’t even get my days straight. I
do my work because it’s my responsibility. Maybe you’ve heard of it? It’s that
thing where you do what you know is right simply because you know you should.
It really irks me whenever a person would walk up to me, give me a dry
compliment and steal my work. I spend a lot of time making sure that I will
pass each class—and even learn something about it, too. If you don’t want to
learn, whatever—just don’t drag me down with you. It’s hard enough that I have
to do my own work, but now I have to do yours, too?
There
are a few circumstances in which I know that people will need help. Believe me,
my point isn’t that I don’t understand, or that I’m intolerant, it’s that I
know that some people aren’t applying themselves. My brother suffers from ADD, and he honestly has
trouble understanding some things. If he asks someone for help, it’s because he
needs help. One would know if it was an issue of him not understanding or just
not doing his work. On the contrary, if he left a section blank in his
homework, this could either be that he didn’t finish (as every kid is guilty
of), or that he seriously didn’t understand and was too afraid to ask for help.
Even though he could figure some stuff out and he knew who to ask, it was tough
for him to get the ball-rolling. He was even in trouble of failing, and
sometimes he needed to ask a peer for some help just so that he wouldn’t fail his
class. This wasn’t just because he was “lazy” or “stupid.” This was because he
didn’t know what to do, but he wanted to figure it out on his own. He would
work hard to get his grade up and eventually he graduated in a higher note.
This is great and all, but that doesn’t mean that everyone who consistently
expects you to grant his/her wishes like a genie has some other story.
Not
everyone is in danger of failing. Not everyone has to ask just “one” question
because he/she was working too late to finish the assigned work. Not everyone
has a low I.Q. because of some mental defect. So, that being said, why does
everyone think that it’s ok to leech? Just because you said one nice thing
about a “smart” person doesn’t entail that you are allowed to put someone else’s
grade in danger because you just couldn’t turn off the T.V. or tell your
friends you had to go do homework. In fact, why didn’t you just ask a friend to
help you? If they couldn’t help you, why not make friends with your information
source? I’m sure that if you got to know them, other than spewing out a few
friendly phrases, you might actually grow to like them. And here’s a crazy
thought: they might be ok with giving you some answers every once in a while.
But God forbid that a popular person or someone that “doesn’t associate with
the smart kids” will actually hold up a nice conversation with that person!
What if that smart person desperately wants someone to talk to, so they have no
choice but to give away their work? What if they actually have a lot of friends
and you are keeping that person from those friends? What if this person was
doing his/her assignments while they were at work, and you didn’t finish yours
because you were too busy partying with your friends? What if this person is
struggling to do what they can with what they have, and they are craving
knowledge? Wouldn’t you feel guilty for slacking off and taking advantage of
that person? No? Well, good luck making your academic achievements without your
“friend.”
Even though I'm not one of the two people above you, I’m going to comment anyway because you have no comments and your blog was really good! I absolutely cannot stand when people leech! I have no problem when someone needs my help. I'd love to help them understand something. But when someone decides they are going to copy my paper, I want to SCREAM at them! And there's a little leech that lives right next door. And I don't mean my neighbor. I mean my little leeching sibling. I can't escape! Ahhhhh!!! I'm so glad that you brought this issue into the light because something definitely needs to be done about it because it really isn't fair to those of us who do the work every time! Your whole blog was beautiful just like your face! You had great points and rhetorical devices! Great job! :D
ReplyDeleteRelationships only work 2 ways. I use to help out this one girl last year that I thought I had a good relationship. I told her what would be on the test in one of my classes like 20+ times.
ReplyDeleteBut then this year when I have her in one of my classes, I didn't do my homework assignment one day and I asked her to help me out and she said no.
WTF.