Friday, December 7, 2012

Slowly Suffocating

 
          Frolicking about the house, I giggle and look up to see her. She smiles sweetly back at me, and we ready ourselves for a game. “Close your eyes,” I whisper, snickering and searching the room carefully for the best hiding spot I can find for the little copper coin in my palm. Finally satisfied with my penny placement, I murmur consent for her to begin her quest. She overturns all of the dishes, vases, cloths, and pots in sight, and I can’t help but laugh; I am the best penny-hider she’s ever seen, after all! “Grandma, look harder,” I hum over her shoulder in encouragement. Gazing satisfied on her standstill of progress, I sneakily slide out the coin from beneath the chair rungs, and a grin spreads across my face. She laughs along with me as the quest ends in the biggest hug you’ve ever seen. I run off giggling for a moment, and suddenly smoke begins swirling to the ceiling. But I’m not worried; I’m used to it. My grandma was a smoker. I loved my grandma so much while I was growing up, but I lost her to lung cancer when I was young. The financial, physical, and emotional effects of coping with a loved one with a smoking problem can be difficult and exhausting, and everyone involved will be affected.
Firstly, the monetary consequences of smoking can be devastating. Using the Cost of Smoking Calculator from University of Maryland Medical System, I have calculated that smoking just one pack of cigarettes a day can cost between two to three and half thousand dollars each year in the U.S., an astounding amount of money spent on cigarettes alone. Considering the economic situation of the nation at this time, do you really think that such an expensive habit will do you any good by keeping you relaxed or happy? Take up knitting instead; it’s cheaper. In addition, there is also a positive correlation in the percentages of smokers in groups of people by decreasing level of education as well as poverty level, as shown in the CDC fact sheets. The consequences one could experience as a result of one’s bad habits should be considered in the decision to make this long-term commitment. Quitting, too, is often an expensive endeavor, often involving expensive nicotine supplements to substitute the addiction. Smokers that want to quit make commitments to wean themselves, but this is very difficult, as statistics show. The Scoop on Smoking claims that 70 percent of smokers want to quit, 40 percent of smokers attempt to quit, and only 50 percent of those who attempt to quit are successful. The high number of smokers that want to quit indicates that smoking isn’t as it is portrayed, as something one would wish to continue, and the monetary costs of smoking just cannot be worth it. Not only does smoking institute financial hardship, but one related to health as well.
Physically, smoking has much to take as well. In a matter of appearance, smoking often leaves a person looking saggy, sallow, and sickly; not to mention that it causes the clothing to smell of smoke or even have holes burned in the cloth. Shallow interests aside, smoking can also lead to deep internal issues as well, such as tar build up in the lungs, multiple cancers, emphysema, and many more. One out of five deaths each year in the United States is attributed to cigarette smoking, and smokers tend to live 13 to 14 years less than nonsmokers, according to the CDC. The organization also remarks that for each person that dies of a smoking-related illness, 20 more are suffering a smoking-related disease. Surely by changing people’s minds about how we view smoking and drugs habits can shift how many individuals and families have to suffer because of the choices that people may not have known fully what they have gotten into. But knowing someone with a smoking problem can lead to emotional issues as well.
Smoke fills your lungs and dances above your head as you look over at him. Sigh. There isn’t anything you can do. What can you say to change his mind? Absolutely nothing. He likes smoking more than he likes you, no matter how many times you cry and beg at his knees to get him to quit. You can see how he just gets worse and worse, deteriorating. Circulation: shot; breathing: labored –but he doesn’t see it. He has quit more times than you can remember, but he’s gone back on it more times than you can count on two hands. Eventually, you give up and think that maybe one day when you have kids, get married, or graduate he won’t be there, but what can you do? Dad, I love you with all my heart, but it hurts to see you do this. I don’t want any more little girls to think about being without their daddies, so don’t do this to them. Don’t make them worry to death and cry themselves to sleep anymore. It doesn’t have to be this way. The physical effects that a smoker often experiences are emotionally painful for loved ones who are forced to witness the suffering –an experience we hope to bypass. Think about how by smoking you might hurt that little girl, and think again about whether you really want to smoke, knowing the consequences.
Smoking hurts families from economic, physical, and emotional standpoints, so it is important to weigh all of the negative effects of a smoking habit before risking one. Above all, remember to keep it in mind that what you decide to do with your life really can negatively affect the people that rely and depend on you to be a role model. Sometimes I wonder if it was really worth it for the people I knew to have wasted so much by smoking, but I know that after all of those years they wouldn’t have been able to quit. But for anyone who hasn’t started smoking –don’t. One day when the years of smoking destroy your health, it won’t be you who hurts; you chose this, but your friends and family didn’t. They will have to face the pain after you’re sick and gone. Please spare you and your family of the financial, physical, and emotional pain that smoking could introduce into your life.

Drowning


“Crash! I hear glass shattering against the basement wall. I know exactly what had happened before my hand even reaches for the basement door. The creeks open, and I walk down the 19 steps I have faced way too many times at 2 in the morning. Descending half way down, a putrid odor engulfs my nostrils. Alcohol. I find my dad passed out on the floor. Blood was gushing from his fresh battle scar on his index that was speckled with brown shards from the pulverized beer bottle. Just another night at dad’s house I tell myself. Just another night that he wanted to forget.”

My name is Caitlin and my dad is an alcoholic.

When you hear the word “drinking” what is the first thing that comes to mind? Most people’s initial thoughts are partying and socializing, or maybe you think of stupid, uncoordinated people. The ones that throw up in the rose bushes and accidently drive over the trash can. These are all consequences of drinking but most people don’t grasp the concept of how hazardous drinking can truly be. You can hurt anyone around you, especially yourself. Drinking causes:

·         Memory loss

·         Impaired vision

·         Impaired motor-skills

·         Irrational thinking

·         Mood swings

·         Hangover

·         Liver failure

·         Cancer

In my reality, the word “drinking” sparks memories of violence, disappointment, misery, and betrayal. I feel like most people don’t understand the full effects of drinking unless they are affected by their own personal life experience. There’s a multitude of reasons that you shouldn’t excessively drink.

#1: Alcohol is not needed to “enhance” your lifestyle.

No one really needs alcohol to make his/her night better. That person might not even remember that night to be honest. You can have as much or more fun sober than you can wasted. Some people also think that if they drink and forget about everything, that it’s a good thing. It’s not like you’re going to wake up and all your problems are going to be gone though. They will still be present the next day companied along with a massive hangover headache. You end up in a worse than what you started at.

#2: Alcohol is expensive.

Think of how much money you would spend on alcohol alone if you drank on a regular basis? That’s a lot of cash that could be going to more important things like bills and food.

#3: Alcohol has terrible side effects.

Alcohol is a foreign substance that should not be consumed on sight. It has some very vicious set backs such as the ones lists above. The most extreme cases are that of liver cancer and alcohol poisoning. The liver has to process and break down all the alcohol you drink. Therefore if you drink a lot, the liver is put under a lot of pressure and stress to rid of this toxic substance.

Drinking is acceptable at the right moments, as long as you’re not getting obsessively drunk. You have to know when enough is enough and you have to be of age to drink responsibly. Drinking is coined with the terms fun and social, not anti-depressant medicine. Drowning yourself with alcoholic beverages is not a suitable solution to your problem at hand.

Racism between blacks and whites


            Back in our early childhoods, I was taught by my mother to accept everyone. That’s meant no matter what shape, size, gender, or color everyone is equal. I have stuck by this statement ever since I was little. Those words mean something to me; I live my life by those words of wisdom. Now everyone throws words around or comments like nothing. Whatever happened to treat everyone the same because we are all equal?

            Some say their racist or say racist things because of certain events. For example if an African American had an issue with a white person, their perception is probably now that all white people are bad, or vis versa. Stereotypes are another key role in racism. Most white people think of African American males and the word criminals associated. In 2008, “The Majority Of American Say Against Blacks Widespread.” click here for more info. As well as you would think being in 2012, people are more accepting and non-judgmental, for they are wrong people still label others. Example being, people think the it was the black guy that stole or did harm rather than a white man. It was like that stereotype paper we read in here. In the paper, the black guy was a Harvard Student and the white man wasn’t friendly and was mean. So therefore, all stereotypes are not true. Another thing could be that a race is afraid of change. The race might just be afraid to get out of their “norm” and see the way others. I personally believe the real reason people are racist is because of ignorance and the way kids were taught growing up. I was defiantly taught different than other kids were. I talked to some my friends and they can’t date outside of their race because of their parents. Also the soul fact that grandparents taught our parents who teach us about racism and it’s our choice to put it in play or not. My mother says be with someone that treats you right.

            In a recent conversation with a good friend, we had this exact conversation and our views. She had asked me what my opinion was and I asked the same. My response was what my mom had taught me and said. Her opinion was a little different. She said how they probably wouldn’t mind but not prefer it because it’s outside the race. As I said before it’s up to us to teach our kids and be the change we wish to see in the world.

            In my opinion I am not racist and don’t believe in the comments. If you have a comment I believe it should be kept to yourself. If you have nothing nice to say, then say nothing at all.

            In our household we are not racist, and here’s why:

·         We are all equal

·         We are all god’s children

·         Most importantly, WE ARE ALL PEOPLE, enough said.


If you have an issue with one person of one race, that does not make everyone of that race like that. You can also learn about people’s culture and the way they live if you give them a chance and get to know them.


One huge issue I have with society today is the fact interracial dating and marriage is not accepted. My mom thinks it’s because we are not like Chicago the big “melting pot.” Some people don’t care for whatever reason and others think it’s a big deal. I guess I just don’t understand why it bothers people if it’s not them?  I personally do not care who you date or who you love, or even the age. If their happy with their life and your happy in yours then who cares? If you love them and they love you that’s all that matters in the end.


I see why people are the way they are and sometimes it’s not their fault. But we have got to change the future generations mind if that’s what we think. We have to be strong and learn to tune out what is not necessary in our lives. It’s not worth hurting peoples’ feelings or making them feel bad for loving someone. My BEST friend is black and I don’t care what anyone thinks. She is loyal, kind, and the greatest person I have ever met in my life. She is not only a friend but a sister…..my other half. We are all like crayons…. We are all different but we all live in the same box.






                 

















          

If You're A Hypocrite and You Know It, Clap Your Hands

     Every single one of you, dear readers, has been a hypocrite at some time or another. It's inevitable, isn't it? We don't necessarily mean to be; hypocrisy isn't always a conscious action.
     An online dictionary recalls that the most common definition of hypocrisy is "a person who pretends to have virtues, moral or religious beliefs, principles, etc., that he or she does not actually possess, especially a person whose actions belie stated beliefs."









     An extreme hypocrite, in my radical opinion, is the Catholic Pope Benedict XVI, also known as Joseph Ratzinger (here is his website, if you would like to know more, and there he is to the left). What makes him, this great, mighty, religious pope, a hypocrite? One may perceive the fact that I put this out there is simply due to my agnostic beliefs, but this person would be wrong. Anyone with a brain could tell that he is a hypocrite. He preaches about religion, about forgiveness, about God, about saving yourself and those around you. He preaches to us, telling us who we need to be and how we need to act in order to be saved by God. He preaches to us about donating ourselves and our time to those in need. He preaches while holding a golden cross, while sitting in his golden chariot, and while wearing his expensive clothing and jewelry. He preaches while there are children dying of starvation every single day. Maybe those children could use the money that was spent on his golden throne (as seen above). How dare he tell us how to behave and who to donate our money to, when he wastes resources and money on that ridiculously eccentric golden throne?
       Another fine example of hypocrisy in our society is former vice president Dick Cheney (if I may add, I am not opposed to him because he is a republican, I am opposed to him because he is, as the title suggests, a hypocrite). Dick Cheney had the audacity to go along with former president George W. Bush's homophobic 2004 re-election campaign. (Side-note: homophobia is an unreasoning fear of or antipathy towards homosexuals and homosexuality. Synonyms for antipathy are disgust, abhorrence, detestation, hatred. Homophobia does not simply mean fear of gays). What makes this hypocritical, you may ask, is the fact that Cheney has a homosexual daughter. If he is pushing for the LGBTQ community to not have rights, is he pushing for his own daughter to be the exception? If not, how can you call yourself a father when you don't want your child to be treated equally?
    
      If you would like to see the final, prime example of hypocrisy, you need only look in the mirror. Studies have shown that subjects watched strangers make the same decision as they did, yet the subjects thought it was unjust. If you have ever:
  • said "Everyone's beautiful," while starving to meet the expectation that society deems "attractive," you are a hypocrite.
  • said "Don't worry about what everyone thinks," while thinking to yourself every day "What if they think I'm stupid," or "What if they don't like me," you are a hypocrite.
  • said "I don't judge," while thinking in your own head "Wow, she looks gross today," or "Wow, that person is a moron," you are a hypocrite.
  • said "I would stick up for someone being bullied," while you hear rude comments every day and not once speak up, you are a hypocrite.
But then again, I'm not really one to talk, am I? I am a hypocrite for simply lecturing about hypocrisy. I am a hypocrite for:
  • saying I don't like labels, yet I label myself every single day.
  • saying I don't judge, yet I judge within my own mind.
  • saying I believe it is bad to harm yourself and worse to kill yourself, yet I still struggle with cutting every day of my life, I question my own existence every day of my life, and my first suicide attempt was April 24th, 2009.
  • acting like I am overly-confident, yet I question my self-worth more often than anything.
  • acting like I cannot stand certain bands due to their lack of voice, yet I sometimes listen to NSYNC (and let's face it, they're the 90's version of One Direction).

      I am not yet proud enough to be unable to proclaim that I fall right under the list of people I despise. I understand certain hypocrisy. As Caroline Coleman stated, "How can we possibly save ourselves from ... hypocrisy if we are all blind to our own faults..."

How can we avoid hypocrisy, truly? Is it as easy as simply not contradicting your words with your actions, or is that too much to ask?

      I believe avoiding hypocrisy may just be that simple. If we would just stand by what we believe, hypocrisy wouldn't exist. If we would just be outright with what we believe, rather than standing behind a facade, hypocrisy wouldn't exist. If we would just be honest with ourselves, hypocrisy wouldn't exist. Do not act as if you believe something if you do not. Do not tell yourself lies anymore. If you judge someone, do not be afraid to admit it to yourself. If you oppose a belief, do not go along with it.

Our beliefs are all we have, so stand by them.

My name is Miranda Crouton, and I am a hypocrite.
Are you?

Double, Triple, Quadruple Feature


Double, Triple, Quadruple Feature

Nobody can argue that he/she does not enjoy watching movies. Every person has his/her own taste. But after seeing a movie, why must one watch it again? Repeatedly—almost until the viewer can recite every line before the actor says it. I simply do not understand. After knowing the ending of the storyline, how can one watch, knowing what events and what plot twists will happen? The suspense is taken away. The humor is taken away. It is like a road sign up ahead saying, “Joke coming in 10 miles!” But I will admit that I have seen several movies more than once. I can see the other side to this argument. Maybe it’s your favorite movie.  Maybe it’s your favorite actor. It makes sense that you want to relive those moments and enjoy them all over again. But is there a price on that entertainment?

                Life is expensive. College, food, clothes—they all cost more than we want them to cost. But what about entertainment? Prices for going to a movie theater seem to be continuously growing. An adult ticket price at 7:00pm at Wehrenberg Theaters is $10.50. Why would you want to spend that much money twice?  It is as if you bought a new house and decided to buy another house because you loved the first one so much.  Although I can imagine a few reasons for paying a high ticket fee twice, they don’t seem quite significant enough. Picture this—two of your friends ask you to go see the same movie, but they can only go at two different times. Would you go twice to help your friends out? Or would you pick one friend over the other? This situation now becomes a decision of what one really wants to pay for. Some people pay for the experience— the crowd, the friends, the popcorn—rather than the actual movie. So in the end, what does the viewer really want to spend their cash on?

An alternative for the high ticket price at the theaters is watching movies on the TV channels. The films range from classic motion pictures to movies that came out a few months ago. However, I personally have noticed that out of all the six-hundred movie channels, my mother has picked about three. My mother tends to watch movies repeatedly, to the point where I can’t stand to be in the room to hear the same lines said once again on screen. She has seen Twilight, Something Borrowed, and My Big Fat Greek Wedding at least eleven times each, with none of them being her favorite movie. A situation happened when I wanted to watch a new movie that none of the family members had seen before, but the channel did not change. It stayed on the film that the family had all seen more than we would have liked. I annoyingly whined, “You’re hogging the TV. You’ve seen this before!” But I was simply hit with the reply, “So what?”  If there are over 800 channels with hundreds of shows and movies that a person has never viewed before, why do some people choose to watch something he/she has seen multiple times?

Someone who has never seen a movie more than once, a well-known film critic, Pauline Kael, had an interview discussing her critic days. She explained how she is surprised at the popular critics of today who see movies over eight times in order to write good reviews. Kael plainly doesn’t understand how the critics don’t hate the movies after watching them so many times. I completely agree with Kael’s statement. I cannot comprehend how one can view a film knowing what will happen next.  It is like the movie is your favorite song on the radio, but the stations play it so much that every time you hear it the song begins to irritate you a little more. Kael is recognized as one of the most opinionated and influential film critics of all time, without ever watching a movie twice in her eighty-two year long life. 
          Therefore it’s true—you can form decent opinions, take in details, and absorb the plot line with just one viewing of a film. However, I will not stop someone if he/she wants to watch a movie again, but I will not be present when doing so. I will probably forever be annoyed by this topic, but I can understand how individuals enjoy watching cinemas more than once.  Movies are meant for entertainment, so as long as they entertain someone, they are filing their role.

Athletes lift wieghts, Cheerleaders lift athletes


                                                 Athletes Lift Weights, Cheerleaders Lift Athletes

Whenever I tell people that I’m a Competitive Cheerleader, most people reply, “That’s not a real sport!” Most people in society don’t even know what a competitive cheerleader is or does, they associate this activity with a high school cheerleading. Although some of the techniques are similar they are two very different sports.

 High School Cheerleader

Most people think…

·         They are annoying people who try to entertain the audience at school sporting events

·         They are attention seekers

·         They are preppy stuck up people

 

Competitive Cheerleader

We are….

·         They are talented athletes

·         They hard workers, who are fighting for the gold

·         They are kids that love to compete

In reply to these stereotypes, I respond to the unique characteristics of Competitive Cheerleading and provide detailed facts of why this activity is really a sport.  Competitive cheerleading is classified as one of the most dangerous sports in the world.  Cheerleaders get injuries twice as often as any other sport. For example, in the gym where I cheer competitively, we have an injury at least twice a week.  Some are serious and others minor infractions.

The definition of a sport - a physical exertion or skill in which an individual or team compete against one another or others.

The definition of competitive cheerleading- a physical exertion, having an organized routine where you compete against others

So if you observe the two definitions above you will see their similarities.  Then why isn’t it a sport?

A lot of non-cheerleaders fail to realize that being a competitive cheerleader takes a lot of skill and technique. If you don’t use the proper method, then someone could get hurt. Look at the video below to get an idea of how dangerous this sport actually is, and you be the judge!

 

If you looked at this video and watched you will notice that it takes a strong athlete to do these things, Competitive cheerleaders live to do this kind of stuff and to hear from people daily that it’s not a sport. How do you think that makes us feel? We work just as hard as any other athlete if not harder but somehow people still try to downgrade us. We aren’t asking you to become cheer obsessed or treat us like we are superior to the world. We are just asking for you to respect what we do and not shoot us down every opportunity you get.

 

 

 

 

 

The Fast and the Fearful


             Think back to the days when we were kids. We had fun running through our back yards on blistering hot summer days. We had fun kicking our legs and swinging as high as we could on our swing sets. We had fun digging in the sand box and making sand castles. Life was so simple back then. We had little to no worries, and I know you could almost always find a smile on my face. But, what has happened?

Nowadays, we are stressed out and flustered. We are exhausted and bored. We have lost our drive to be happy. Always going with work, homework, family, social life, and social media, we are moving too fast. Considering we’re still in high school, we—as students—have so much going on in our worlds. Texting and social networking have engulfed our lives. We are always going with extra activities such as sports or band. We have jobs, families, and friends. Most people barely get a chance to sit back and relax anymore.

In the little free time we get, you can find us texting or twittering which—for some people—is the only thing that brings a smile to their face in a day. Overuse of technology has been tied to depression and anxiety. In other words, it doesn’t exactly give off happy feelings. Although I absolutely love cheer, it also takes up an enormous amount of time in my life that could be spent with family or doing homework. Not to mention work, with the countless hours of standing and hearing from rude customers. After a while it all starts to wear down on you. You get stressed out which can cause sleep problems, depression, obesity and even heart disease.

“So, where’s the sentence that talks about the time we spend relaxing?” You might ask. Well, that’s a good question. Bottom line is, we are way too caught up in our lives to even remember how to relax or have fun anymore. In my opinion, we need to fix this before it is too late. We need to starting taking days off work and have chill days. We need to start turning the phones off, and go toss around a ball with the family. We need to take a day off from sports and catch up on our homework. Valuing our mental state is necessary, and we will thank ourselves in the end.