One Partner, One Love, Everlasting Happiness

     What ever happened to just having one spouse, one love, or one significant other? Personally I have seen it everywhere. Men cheating on their wives, women cheating on their husband, men cheating on men or whatever the couple may be. I am a bit confused. The minute they said, " I do", it should have been just them two forever. I get it, divorces happen, things change, couples split, but why in the world is cheating ever a resolution to a relationship problem? It may not even be that, one half of the couple may think they can balance both relationships, and that my friends, is completely wrong. This topic may be a little too rough or even a little too serious. I just seem to care a little too much about this topic to let it go.

You see it in schools, in families and it is widely seen on television with unloyal celebrities who think they have the world by the you know what and cheat on their significant other. It sickens me and it kills me to see families destroyed by this. Lets get real, you don't see people who are okay with getting cheated on. If you are, you shouldn't be.  Don't get me wrong, I am not telling you how to live your life. If you are okay with having more than one partner, fine. If it's cool that your mate is seeing someone else besides you, and you and your partner were together first, it is whatever your into. If you are not crushed, broken hearted or even depressed from your mate being unloyal, than maybe this doesn't apply to you.

 To me i believe in the quote," Once a cheater, always a cheater". It absolutely kills me to see cases of cheating where the person being cheated on keeps running back to the cheater only to get her heart sliced into a another piece over and over again. Being unfaithful to your partner is notorious for starting further problems. After a bad break up caused by cheating you see the two lovers become enemies. They talk bad on each other, spread lies and it just causes so much pain in life. Where I come from, in my household, cheating is not tolerated. What happens to a cheater? Maybe I shouldn't say. I was raised to respect women and to treat them like they were royalty. Not nessecarily flatter them but you know what I mean. I am indeed a male, so this may be weird coming from me, but to me this is perfectly nessecary. After all guys, we are bulit bigger and have protective genes (in most cases), so it is our duty to always have a girl's back and be by their side.

If you are out there and you are hurting someone due to you being an unloyal or untruthful person, check yourself before karma will get after you. If I am speaking to a past cheater, I hope you have learned your lesson, but has the person's heart you broke forgiven you? If I am talking to a present day cheater who is currently cheating on their partner, has the guilt not made you crumble yet. Will you ever feel the pain you will cause your partner in the future? Lying to someone is extremely overrated. You only live once. Do you want to live your whole life a lie? If I am speaking to a person who is willing to cheat in the future, what is causing this? Has breaking up with this person ever crossed your mind instead of completely ruining your relationship?

Now I understand, people go through stages which is typically common in younger people. One day they like someone, the next day they don't. You may like two people at the same time. If you are not ready to make a full commitment to someone, then keep searching my friend, and do not play with people's emotions. Love is a precious thing, it is a part of life. It comes and goes and even sometimes lasts a lifetime. In this case, it should last a lifetime. If it is cut short, it should not in any way be caused by a cheater or unloyal spouse. It's more heart-breaking to see in marriages, these people were meant to last a lifetime, and if the relationship comes to a hault because of this. Something went terribly wrong.

I guess I didn't start feeling so strongly on this topic until about a year ago when someone very close to me was left heart broken and destroyed by a break-up. I was by this girl's side, but then I realized, the reason was because their boyfriend had cheated on them. Your kidding me. This cheater in the non-fiction story my friends, is a boy. In no way shape or form is he a man. Remeber that ladies. This little punk lied to the person very close to me and cheated on her with no intention to tell her. He felt no remorse, and even felt powerful enough to do it again. Tiss tiss little boy, there are good people out there in the world, as the lovely lady I know well was informed by a loyal friend about what her scumbag boyfriend had done. The girl close to me was heart broken, devastated, depressed. After years of loyalty, she was betrayed for no reason. When did he do it? When she was out of town. What could the girl do? She could not see her self with anyone else? Like the young fool she was, she gave him a second chance. Days later, he was back at it again, looking to cheat on my girl with another. This time, with all of the help from friends and family she let him go. Thank god!!! The story does not end here, the little wimpy boy was furious. He posted lies about this girl on social networking sites about her and called her names only an immature child would. This is where I come in. My friends and I were to put a stop to this. I personally just wanted to scare him, but my friends were out for blood. Strangely I was proud of that. It must have been the male gene. From there we made this boy's life hell for what he did and within days, was back to where he was, and hasn't said a word about "my girl" or done anything else stupid.

Reasons not to cheat on your significant other:

1. It makes you look stupid, unloyal, untrustworthy and perverted.
2. You are playing with emotions that are not to be messed with
3. It is rude, disgusting, and selfish of you.

I don't care who you are, what your name is, how much money you have, or what gender you are. Cheating is wrong. When you ask someone out or are with a person in a relationship, that is a commitment and a responsibility. If you can no longer handle that, it is time you moved on. For god's sake, DO NOT GO OUT WITH A BANG! You as a person, respectfully let that person go. Otherwise, that significant other of yours, is yours forever. I mean that. To the girls out there, don't let that boy, you say you love, use you and treat you like dirt. You deserve a man who will be there for you and treat you like a princess. To the guys, you do not want a selfish little girl to call yours. You need a women who is your bestfriend, and will one day provide you with a family you can call yours. To the cheaters, look in the mirror, take a deep breath, and tell yourself your sorry. You must forgive yourself for the harm you have done before you can forgive your past, present or future significant other with an, " I'm so sorry". There are always second chances, so do not fit the quote, " Once a cheater, alaways a cheater". You must move on and never do it again. You got it? If not I will find and I will destroy you. No, I do not not have a particular set of skills, but you catch my drift. I generalize when I say man and women, but if you are a homosexual or are bisexual everything still applies to you. There is nothing wrong with being gay.

 According to studies:

• 30 to 60 % of married couples in the United States will engage in infidelity. 
• 17% of marriages are ended by infidelity.
• two-thirds of women are not aware of their husbands cheating on them. 
• Men cheat out of sexual disatisfaction.
• 90 percent of American believe adultry is morally wrong. 
• Younger people are likely to cheat, the men and women are both as equal to cheat at this stage.
• 35% of American thought adultry should be a crime.
• 14 percent of women have had an affair at least once in their life. 22 percent for men. 

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